Why do People Stay in Abusive Relationships?

Imagine if you never looked forward to coming home at the end of the day.  If the person you lived with had severe mood swings, called you names, swore at you, threw things and maybe even hit you.

This is a reality that too many people live with.  Both women and men will stay in abusive relationships for a bunch of different reasons.  These reasons are important to recognize, they explain why we should never look in as an outsider and judge the victim.

Sometimes the victim feels indebted to the abuser, they’ve invested in a marriage and children and would feel like they failed somehow if they left.  They might feel like they can change the abuser, the abuser might tell the victim that they are the only person who understands them and could never live without them.  Sometimes after an explosion there is what’s called a honeymoon phase where the abuser apologizes and promises the victim they will never do it again, minimizing the abusive incident.  Often times it’s just really dangerous to leave.  Just imagine how much the victim’s self-esteem is compromised. 

Why am I bringing this up?  I’ve seen many people stay loyal to their abusive partners and friends.  I think we’ve all been touched by abuse in some way, whether we’ve experienced it or witnessed it.  The problem is, where can victims go for help?  Talking to a friend or family member isn’t always the first choice.  There is a huge fear of being judged and perhaps receiving unsolicited advice that is difficult to hear.  Also, it is very common for the victim to defend their abuser, this will only confuse family and friends.  Family and friends are not experts, the victim must seek professional help.

This year I made a decision to get involved somehow and support an organization who has been working for 40 years to keep women and their children safe in our community.  Halton Women’s Place’s mission is to end the cycle of abuse and help build healthy relationships and healthy communities. 

They offer a crisis line, outreach services and residential services.  Their website offers SIGNS OF ABUSE and gives women a safety plan along with other helpful resources. 

I believe in a world where men and women treat each other with respect, compassion and support.

With Mother’s Day coming up in less than a month, I thought this was the perfect time to create a very special piece of jewelry to raise funds for Halton Women’s Place.  On Friday we launched our 2019 Limited Edition Swarovski Crystal Mother’s Day Bracelet.

We will use the proceeds raised to buy items from their “Shelter Needs List”.   We will be preparing care packages for women and their children, including women’s sanitary products, baby wipes, sponges, tissues, toothbrushes, soap and other much needed items.

We could never do this without your support.  If you are in a relationship where you feel victimized or know of someone who doesplease call the Halton Women’s Place Crisis Line and get help. They are here to empower women in a gentle and loving way.  The kind of treatment a victim deserves.

Thank you for your love and support!  We could never help our community without you.

Monica XO

When you order your bracelet before April 17th you will receive free shipping, tax included and a complementary pair of matching earrings (valued at $45). Click HERE to place your order now.


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